It’s December and I can feel the calendar trying to bully people right now. The texts pick up. The invitations stack. The “one last thing before the year ends” requests start sliding into every corner of the day.
This week I caught myself doing that December thing where you say “yes” just to keep the peace. Yes to be helpful. Yes to be liked. Yes because it’s easier than explaining. And then later you wonder why you’re tired, short-tempered, or quietly resentful.
So, today is a reminder I needed first.
The Power of a "Clean" Yes
A clean yes is a yes you can stand behind without negotiation, without guilt, and without paying for it later.
Not because you’re selfish. Not because you don’t care. A clean yes comes from clarity. It’s what happens when your values get a vote before your schedule does.
A messy yes sounds like: “Sure… I guess.”
A clean yes sounds like: “Absolutely. I’m in.”
And a clean no? That’s not rejection. That’s protection. It protects your energy. Your family. Your health. Your creative work. Your peace.
December exposes this fast because the world asks for extra. Extra spending, extra smiling, extra showing up, extra doing. A clean yes lets you show up with your whole heart for the things that matter, instead of a half-heart for everything.
This Week's Bold Question:
"Where are you giving messy yeses right now?
What would change this week if you chose one clean yes and one clean no?"
Here’s the important part after the question: this is not about becoming rigid. It’s about becoming honest. Clean yeses are how you stay kind without abandoning yourself. They keep you present instead of pressured.
Three High-Performance Shifts
Before we go tactical, remember the goal. You are not trying to “do December better.” You are choosing how you want to feel while you live it.
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Name your top three priorities for the next seven days.
Write them down. Three only. If it’s not connected to those, it does not automatically get your time. This is how you stop living in reaction mode.
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Turn one messy yes into a clean yes or a clean no.
Pick the one that keeps tugging at you. Send the text. Make the call. Adjust the plan. Relief often shows up the moment you speak clearly.
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Build a buffer like it’s part of the plan.
Add 15 minutes between commitments. Leave one evening open. Put air in the schedule. Buffers keep your patience intact and your presence available.
Amplifying the Lesson
Some people think boundaries make you less loving. I’ve found the opposite. When your yes is clean, your love is clean too. You listen better. You show up fully. You enjoy the moment instead of surviving it.
And if you’re thinking, “I can’t say no, people need me,” I get it. Responsibility is real. Leadership is real. Family is real. A clean yes does not erase that. It helps you carry it with maturity instead of martyrdom.
Because the truth is, the people who benefit most from your life are not served by your burnout. They are served by your steadiness.
Closing Thought
You don’t need to finish the year perfect. You just need to finish it honest.
Honest about what you can do.
Honest about what you can’t.
Honest about what matters most, and what can wait.
Choose a clean yes this week. Let it be your anchor. And let your no be an act of wisdom, not an apology.
And as always, I love you much!
Your Coach,
DrEG3
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